What to Post:
Posting Childhood Memories can be Tricky
+Sometimes there’s too much to remember. Sometimes nothing comes to mind. Often, in place of specific memories, what we remember are the stories we tell others about our childhood or our interpretation of them as we grow up. We suggest that, rather than sharing stories or interpretations, you try to remember the details of specific events or incidents.
Post an Event
+An event is something that takes place over minutes or hours. It’s made from a child’s perspective. For example, "How I got lost in the department store, while shopping with my mother when I was 5 years old". A story is something that takes place over a period of weeks, months or years, such as "I was abused by my grandfather after I went to live with my grandparents after my parents divorced". An analysis is a summary of many events that often uses psychological talk and is made from adult’s perspective, such as "I was raised by narcissistic parents who created a toxic and dysfunctional family environment".
Focus on One Memory At a Time
+Stick to one specific memory, even if it’s just a small fragment or a brief moment. This helps keep things clear. Try not to mix in other memories or events that happened before or after—it’s easier to understand your post when you focus on one memory at a time.
Share the Facts
+Include details like your age, the people involved, their actions or words, and any major life events.
Stick to the Child’s Perspective
+Describe the events how they felt to you at the time, using the child’s perspective. That makes your feel authentic and alive.
Describe What You Remember
+Include sights, sounds, smells, or other sensory experiences that were part of the memory.
Reflect on Your Growth
+Mention the positives. Share any lessons you’ve learned from your experience.
Things We Appreciate
+We appreciate memories that have enough detail, yet are easy to follow, and are written in clear and simple language.
Specific Rules on Commenting
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• Focus on empathy and similarities to your experience
• Acknowledge their courage in sharing
• Validate their experiences without judging what is ideal, normal or abnormal
• Do not give advice or solutions
• If sharing your own experience, focus on describing what happened and how it affected you
• Respect their boundaries if any were indicated in their post
• If you’re unsure if your comment will be helpful, error on the side of caution
• Acknowledge their courage in sharing
• Validate their experiences without judging what is ideal, normal or abnormal
• Do not give advice or solutions
• If sharing your own experience, focus on describing what happened and how it affected you
• Respect their boundaries if any were indicated in their post
• If you’re unsure if your comment will be helpful, error on the side of caution
What Not to Post:
Entire Life Stories
+Rather than sharing a summary of your childhood, focus on a specific event or memory.
Psychology and Jargon
+Keep your language simple and easy to understand. Focus on sharing events and emotions rather than making evaluations.
Self-Labeling and Labeling of Other People
+When in recovery it's common to label oneself and others. With time labels stop being helpful. Avoid using labels. Stick to sharing the facts.
Graphic Content
+Avoid sharing explicit or disturbing details that may be harmful to others.
Swear Words
+Avoid using swear words. Keeping it polite helps prevent spreading the negative stance to others on this platform.
Rants and Vents
+While it's important to be true to your emotions, try to avoid overly emotional language that may overwhelm or negatively impact others.
Advice and Solutions
+Stay clear of giving others advice－what they should do, or sharing solutions－what you have done.
Personal Information
+Do not share personally identifiable information about yourself or others.
Contact Details
+Posting your contact details, or social media handles will result in your account termination.
Hate Speech
+Please engage respectfully. Avoid all forms of hate speech and discriminatory language.
Self-Harm Talk
+This platform is not a substitute for crisis intervention. Do not post about self-harm or suicidal thoughts. If you need help, please reach out to a mental health professional.
Tips on How to Share Sensitively:
Respect Your Emotions
+Delving into your memories in detail may bring up challenging emotions. Some of these memories may be emotionally intense and difficult to handle, potentially causing feelings of overwhelm, flashbacks, anxiety, distress, or other physical and emotional symptoms.
Skip What Feels Overwhelming
+If there’s anything in your memory that feels too heavy, difficult, intense or overwhelming we encourage you to skip it, knowing you can return whenever you feel prepared.
Emotions Might Change
+You may feel okay now while reflecting on your memories, but emotions can shift unexpectedly. It’s possible to become distressed or even depressed later. Please consider talking to a mental health professional, friend, family member, or trusted support person.
Take Breaks
+The process doesn’t have to be completed in one sitting, and you’re free to revisit or add details as you feel ready.
Honor Your Well-Being
+Please use our platform in a way that honors your emotional well-being, taking all the time you need. Take it easy on yourself, go at your own pace, and remember, if you start to feel overwhelmed, you can take a break from the site and come back when you’re ready.
What to Do if You Become Distressed
+If you become distressed or experience thoughts of self-harm, we suggest in the strongest possible terms to reach out to a mental health professional or someone else you trust for immediate help and advice.
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